Another Adri Text: Idol

We had a bad time for a couple of months in late spring of 2021 with the apartment she was living in. There was lots of drama with neighbors, and at one point one of them busted out the window that just happened to be the boys' bedroom. She was afraid for them and herself, and the management didn't care and were trying to evict both tenants even though Adri and family were the victims, and had pictures and videos that documented everything. It was just easier that way for the apartment complex.

And all during covid, but they didn't care. And she had a section 8 voucher, so an eviction would make her lose that forever. And she couldn't just move anywhere; the new place had to take the voucher. And she had to jump through all these hoops created by DHA, and all the while the complex was threatening to lock her and the boys out of the apartment.

I was losing my mind with worry; it was a non-stop problem consisting of a multi-headed hydra of issues and challenges. I hired a lawyer, which of course isn't an option for 99% of people in Adri's situation due to money, and the apartment management knows that.

In the end, we got her out of that apartment and into another one, but there was a two-week gap where they had to be in an extended stay type of hotel and all their stuff in storage, which we of course had to pay to move twice.

Anyway, she was hanging by a thread, which would be understandable for anyone in that situation, and I really thought I was letting her down by not being able to fix it easily, so I told her that I wish I could do better for her.

Her reply was special to me and helped me. Like she said about her kids sometimes holding her, she lifted me up when she was on the ledge herself. I was lucky that she told me these things, I know some are not lucky enough to hear them. I'll always know that I was her "idol.":

            6/13/2021 6:20:30 PM

What? You do way more than you’re supposed to do. Seriously, you do way, way more for me and the boys than anyone could or should do.

              Please don’t say you’re sorry.

              I wish I could do better for YOU. And the boys.

You have always done everything and always put up a fight and have always done everything you could do, ALWAYS, no matter what, or who said what, or what was going on.

I love you. I hope you realize you’re my idol, and I moved Bryce here to be by you so he can be like you. And I know I’m a lot, and I come with a lot, and I am like you a lot, and we butt heads, but I’m so grateful for the person inside you taught me to be.

And Wes came, and he’s just like you, and I want them around you. I’m so lucky to have had and still have you as a father figure, and I want that for them.